Mel Geary Memorial

His full name was Melvin John Geary. He lived from 1929 to 2007. He was my ex-husband and father of my children. I have kept quiet about him since our lives diverged, but in the last year of his life, some things resolved. He called me a "special person" and that's how I think of him. In the early 1960s, he announced that his color was blue. He chose blue. But he became quite colorful. I took colors from his latest paintings to fill these memorial pages. I pay tribute and give links. In 2021 I updated this page with videos from Vimeo since the Flash and Quicktime links are broken.



My words are for the Mel Geary I was drawn to in marriage as a young woman and the one I continued to relate to although divorced, as father of my two children. Living at other ends of the country, I saw and knew of him less and less, so can't honor his path through maturity. Let's compare a young Mel Geary to my older father Iver Lind. There are two parts: how Mel Geary was like my father and how Mel Geary was different from my father.


My movies are from his last year. They show he endured, created a legacy, and made his transition. The last two movies have no sound, so I include Harry Belafonte movies from YouTube. These sounds are the ones I associate with Mel and his space because that's what he played in the late 50s and early 60s.

  • mel"Being in a Movie", April 2006 - on camera, Mel laughs about his part in a movie. In April, 2006, Mel didn't know he had cancer, or that he had little more than a year to live. In town to attend a baby shower for his unborn twin grandsons, he was helping fix his daughter's house. My camera reminded him of being in a movie where he forgot his lines. There was complete silence. This struck Mel as greatly funny. He said the movie makers told him to just be himself. He continues working as he tells this story. Mel accepts, enjoys, and laughs at himself.

    The movie reverberates as Mel in the movie tells about being in a movie and is reflected in a mirror. There is a moment of silence as he recalls the previous movie's silence. Mel is being himself in this movie, following the advice of how to be in the previous movie. Transitioning through the rainbow colors of his latest paintings, the movie retraces his expressions.

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  • studio"Mel's Studio", December 2006 - tour of the house that he had built and lived in up to the end, with paintings. Mel designed and supervised construction of his studio home in Danville, PA, USA. I don't know his ideas but it looks like a good place for him to create art, show his work, live, and raise his daughter in a natural setting not too far from schools, hospitals and other city services. I first saw blueprints and heard about it in 1999. He said it was to be his "legacy". He had been an architectural designer and had helped many artists create living spaces in industrial lofts in Manhattan. For awhile he co-owned a stained glass window business. He always kept painting. His studio was a dream come true. I trust it speaks for itself. The video is a walk around inside the studio during a visit on a winter afternoon in December 2006. Take a look.

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  • transit"Mel's Transition", Summer 2007 - Mel leaves, wafting off up into the light. Flash (1 MB)



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